On the porn/pollster thread started by arbi, Catherder replied to one of my posts ...


"Ladies, if you have a problem with the fact I put on the moderator's hat in that other thread by asking what I did of you, then avail yourself of the moderation review process.  I stated my reason for the request when I made the request.

"Folks, in the effort to keep LDS Discussions threads on topic and gospel related, I may start exercising the power to close threads that stray to only tangential discussions of the original post's intent or that are derailed completely into something that becomes non-edifying.  I don't want to do that, but the option is there.  So please, try and keep the conversations here edifying."


I think some things are worth bringing up.  

The only "reasons" I could find you stating in the "porn talks not useful" thread (requesting I rephrase something... that "something" was not clear to me)  were that you thought I was aggressive, defensive, had invalid reasons for being so, and my perceived "posture" which translates to misunderstanding, anger, resentment, uncharitable thoughts and finger-pointing.

While this all may sound good, I find sometimes your moderation "no-no talks" turning into some sort of diatribe/monologue and I get lost in the translation.  Is he saying I'm pointing fingers at someone?  Is he saying my aggressiveness... wait, was I aggressive?  What sentence is he talking about I wonder?


There were also some instances on the porn pollster thread between you and others that I did not agree with or appreciate.  I will not bring those up specifically, because I don't want to stir up problems where they may not exist.  For now, I will just put out a concern I have.




As for cat's second paragraph quoted above, I also have an issue with "original post's intent" being determined by a moderator if that moderator did not in fact create that post.  (How could he know the poster's intent?)  And the concept of what's non-edifying.  I really don't want to have to censor everything I write to pass the test of "Is cat going to like this?  Or is cat going to personally get something out of my post that edifies him?"

Seems very subjective to me.  I'd like to be told what sentence or word offends cat and not have to guess.  I'd like to first have a gentle reminder to get back on track if I'm digressing.  (bok is great at the gentle/humorous reminders) I'd like everyone to be treated with equal respect and given equal "wiggle room" ... as in the comment by cat that "Most people know ray does such and such..."  Who's most people?  Cat and ray?  We should all give ray a break because he's been online since 1986?

(Please, no disrespect here ray... I'm using you as an example of unfairness I perceive on cat's part... I myself try to give you a break. )

As for my own personal feelings, I have perceived some bullying, heavy-handedness and a superiority complex coming from Cat at times.  This could be my own personal take on things.  I am far from being one who does not offend.

Just thought we might talk about these things...