When driving with your spouse who is more likely to have the steering wheel? [19 vote(s)]
Me
52.6%
My Spouse
36.8%
I have no spouse, thanks for bringing up the pain, you insensitive clod!
5.3%
Ever since the accident, and I had both my legs amputated, I've been unable to get back in the car. Just the word CAR terrifies me. I was barely able to click this response... (you insensitive clod!)
Alrighty, Time to confess, who drives the car in your relationship? Do you? Do you enjoy driving in the car when your spouse is driving? Do you care? Do you have unresolved psychoses about your mother? Just lay it all out!
--Ray
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Alrighty, Time to confess, who drives the car in your relationship? Do you? Do you enjoy driving in the car when your spouse is driving? Do you care? Do you have unresolved psychoses about your mother? Just lay it all out!
--Ray
It's usually me. Mostly I just like driving. I once drove from California to Colorado in one day.
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I end up driving, but don't like it, though I gladly do it. My sweetheart used to drive all the time, but after the birth of our second daughter, something funky happened, in which she started having panic attacks when she drives. She's got a few tricks she uses to get around town when she needs to, but mostly I drive.
--Ray
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I'm not slow; I'm special. (Don't take it personally, everyone finds me offensive. Yet somehow I manage to live with myself.)
Obviously, I do the majority of the driving for the family, since I am the one at home, and thus the main chauffuer.
When hubby and leave the house together, he typically takes the wheel. If I am picking him up from work or something, then of course I stay at the wheel.
I think that he prefers to drive, 'cause when I am driving he tends to freak out and act like I'm going to kill us all.
--bokbadok, who has had a perfect driving record for 23 years
I chalk it up to the fact that he doesn't understand that I have eyes in the back of my head, so he can't comprehend that I really do see that the car in front of me is hitting the brakes at the same time I am checking my blind spot.
Travelling long distances, Sister Roper. I read aloud to her. We need to make a road trip to Alaska so we can finish the Chronicles of Narnia--we keep getting interrupted by annoying little things like research projects for school, HAM radio workshops, employment, four children, etc.
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My sweet husband has a Jekyll/Hyde phenomenon when he gets behind the wheel. It's better for both of us, and for our marriage, if I drive as often as possible.
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Hee Hee!! Thanks for putting the "I have no spouse" response up on the poll, Ray! I'm the one that chose that, but I did so through gales of laughter!
Since it's only me these days, well.... I guess I drive my car! Although my dogs have been pushing for me to get them licenses.
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- Anonymous
Glad I could make ya laugh. As offtopic as it is to bring humor into any of these other sections of the message board, I admit that it's deeply ingrained in my nature. Someday I'll be mature and sober and then I suppose I'll be translated...
--Ray
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I'm not slow; I'm special. (Don't take it personally, everyone finds me offensive. Yet somehow I manage to live with myself.)
Bok, that's coming soon! I'm having one of my mares sent to a trainer to have her trained to drive. By next year I should be set to toodle along with a horse-drawn buggy!
Yeesh! I really don't like the emoticon here (though I love to use such an emoticon as I really do grin a lot). I like the one from Nauvoo.com much better. :pout:
-- Edited by Spotted Horse at 09:34, 2006-09-09
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*turns hindquarters towards the chicken with ruffled feathers*
Snort!! Then find a better "big grin" emoticon for Bountiful... else I shall your woefully inadequate attempt to suppress my HF-given right to Free Speech!
Ooops, almost forgot.. here's the I owe you for allowing me my say.
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I'll not only eat you for lunch , I shall eat your children for breakfast! MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!
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- Anonymous
I drive on long trips such as vacation. Anything less than an hour or so and I have her drive. My job used to be outside sales. Before that I drove delivery for farm equipment parts. As such, I don't like to drive that much. I would spend all day on the road, come home and my wife would want to go out so I would have her drive so I could relax.
Since hubby spends most of his time at work driving, he tends to ask me to drive when we are together. This does not, however, proclude him from telling me HOW to drive. Heard many times from me when driving with him:
"Kay. I thought you told me you didn't want to drive...and yet, here you are trying to DRIVE FOR ME!"
edited to add: this has no bearing on road trips. I am not allowed to drive on road trips. He tells me it has something to do with gas mileage, but we all know it is because he doesn't want to deal with the 7 children screaming/fighting/whining/needing/escaping in the back.
-- Edited by trooperswife at 08:34, 2006-09-14
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I usually drive if we're in the car together. I know, it's sexist, chauvinist, control-freakish, etc. It's just what we're accustomed to. I grew up with it sort of being one of the unsaid "duties of the Father" to drive (although Mom and Dad would switch driving on long road trips down south or out west to visit family). Mrs. Cat Herder was an edge of the road hugger early on in our marriage, and so I just became habitually nervous riding shotgun for her.
Likewise, I can not sleep if riding shotgun to any other driver... if I'm gonna sleep in the car, I'd rather it be behind the wheel... No, actually, when I was learning to drive, my parents trained me to be extra alert as shotgun to help keep the driver awake, so habitually, I find it very difficult to snooze if I don't have the duty of driving, even if I am dead tired and we've pulled over to switch drivers... I get in the passenger side and I'm wide awake again.
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It seems to me the only thing you've learned is that Caesar is a "salad dressing dude."
Talitha, I love how you put it... "he tells me it has something to do with gas mileage..."
Cat, I have the same problem -- I can fall asleep fine when I'm behind the wheel, but not in the passenger seat. Until just recently. Now I can fall asleep anywhere! I'm a bit concerned...
I usually drive if we're in the car together. I know, it's sexist, chauvinist, control-freakish, etc. It's just what we're accustomed to. I grew up with it sort of being one of the unsaid "duties of the Father" to drive (although Mom and Dad would switch driving on long road trips down south or out west to visit family). Mrs. Cat Herder was an edge of the road hugger early on in our marriage, and so I just became habitually nervous riding shotgun for her.
Likewise, I can not sleep if riding shotgun to any other driver... if I'm gonna sleep in the car, I'd rather it be behind the wheel... No, actually, when I was learning to drive, my parents trained me to be extra alert as shotgun to help keep the driver awake, so habitually, I find it very difficult to snooze if I don't have the duty of driving, even if I am dead tired and we've pulled over to switch drivers... I get in the passenger side and I'm wide awake again.
In my case the long drives are usually through the mountains or with lots of traffic and my wife feels more comfortable when I drive in the traffic. She will drive in either one if she has to. Like you though I cannot sleep if someone else is driving. I've done it on a couple of occassions but only when I was so tired from being up all night on a plane or something that I couldn't help it. Everyone else will be out cold and yet there I am sitting shotgun wide awake. What I really hate is doing a 3+ hour drive when I'm tired and everyone in the car is asleep. It's too darn quiet and being tired makes things uncomfortable.
Trooperswife, I imagine it's difficult for your husband on vacations when he sees all those speeders and can't pull them over.
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Likewise, I can not sleep if riding shotgun to any other driver... if I'm gonna sleep in the car, I'd rather it be behind the wheel...
That reminds me of a joke.
"If you could choose how to die, how would you want to go?"
"I'd want to die peacefully in my sleep, like my grandpa did... not screaming like the rest of the folks in the car with him."
-- Edited by Spotted Horse at 12:46, 2006-09-16
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BTW, the Colorado State Troopers have some interesting tactics. For instance, more than once I've noticed troopers going below the speed limit in the left lane. That means that there's a line of cars behind them, since many people don't want to pass a cop. The line of cars hides them, so if you're speeding (which I don't do much anymore) you'll whiz right past them before you realize that they're there. I did sorta get caught by that once. I moved into the left lane to pass. We have this imbecilic law in Colorado that you have to keep out of the left lane except for passing. The law had passed sort of recently when this happened, and I still didn't have a good feel for when the cops would pull you over for that infraction. Anyway, after moving into the left lane, I saw that there was a cop at the head of the line of cars. I quickly pulled back into the right lane. I suppose that made me seem very guilty, because the cop moved onto the shoulder to get behind me. But I hadn't really broken any law, so he just fined me for a broken headlight. Now I pass cops all the time. It still feels weird, but as long as I'm not speeding, and I move back into the right lane at the first opportunity, I don't worry about it. Of course, Colorado state troopers also frequently don't hide. They'll just park in the median between the two directions and wait for the first speeder unobservant enough not to see them.
(edited to correct my poor sense of which is my right hand and which is my left)
-- Edited by arbilad at 09:56, 2006-09-18
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If ye love wealth better than liberty, the tranquility of servitude than the animated contest of freedom, go from us in peace. May your chains sit lightly upon you, and may posterity forget that you were our countrymen! - Samuel Adams
So, what you're telling us is that in Colorado, the right lane is now the passing lane and the drive lane is the lane more towards the middle of the road? That is gonna cause some consternation in your German tourists who, being used to driving on the Autobahn, will be flashing their blinkers furiously to tell the people in front of them to move over to the right so they can pass...
Most states it is the other way around... drive lane(s) are the outermost lanes and passing lane(s)are innermost lanes. Of course, here in Michigan, you can get passed on both sides at the same time if you are driving in the center lane(s)... and even then you can still be driving 5 mph or more above speed limit out on the open road (which is 70 mph to begin with) and people still want to run over you / ride in your back seat with you. And then there is the "aggressive driving" at these speeds. People speed up when they see they are about to get passed, people weave in and out of lanes of traffic as if they were driving a car in a video game. And that is dangerous when you have 4 lanes of thru traffic that then suddenly drops to 3 around a curve or another lane merging in from an on ramp. We had a 40 car pileup on one of the freeways here in metro Detroit late last week. Luckily, no one was injured to the point of needing hospitilization, according to news reports...
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It seems to me the only thing you've learned is that Caesar is a "salad dressing dude."
Ooh, I switched left and right. Forgive me. My son does it all the time, and now it's rubbed off on me!
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If ye love wealth better than liberty, the tranquility of servitude than the animated contest of freedom, go from us in peace. May your chains sit lightly upon you, and may posterity forget that you were our countrymen! - Samuel Adams
[[Of course, Colorado state troopers also frequently don't hide. They'll just park in the median between the two directions and wait for the first speeder unobservant enough not to see them.]]
You really have to be speeding in the neck of the woods my hubby patrols to get pulled over. He would much rather get a DUI or seat belt violation than speeding. Also, just fyi, troopers in CO have no quotas for tickets, so they aren't trying to nail everyone who hovers over the speed limit.
[[more than once I've noticed troopers going below the speed limit in the left lane. That means that there's a line of cars behind them, since many people don't want to pass a cop.]]
Troopers and/or police officers TRY to slow down to the point that people will pass them...if you are avoiding passing them when they are clearly below the speed limit, they wonder why you don't want them to see you. No seat belt? Expired tags? Just pass them at or around speed limit. And then, if your tags are expired, prepare a good excuse.
You'd be surprized how often those state troopers aren't even paying attention to you. They are doing paperwork from their last crash, eating dinner, talking to their wife on the phone...
Oh, no....now I've said too much.
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hopefully they're not doing paperwork for their last crash and driving slowly at the same time... or else they'd probably end up doing more paperwork... I really hate paperwork...
--Ray
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I'm not slow; I'm special. (Don't take it personally, everyone finds me offensive. Yet somehow I manage to live with myself.)
I do most of the day to day driving even when MrHic is available. He does most of the driving when we are on vacation, because I am the navigator extraordinaire.
It's digging-through-old-threads day, fyi.
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While waiting for the teenager I decided to peruse this old thread that Hiccups rejuvenated. And yes, Cat Herder is a male chauvinist! Ha! Ha! Just kidding. He really isn't. But yes, unless we're running late for church and I've already started the car, then Cat Herder does the majority of the driving!
Before the attacks come: Y'all haven't ridden with poncho, have ya? So there!
To clarify poncho's statement: She is a far better driver than she was when we were dating and got married (and never anywhere near as scarey as riding with her mom). Remember, she had only been driving a couple years when we met. So early on in our marriage, she used to hug the curb and edge of the road so much I would squirm -- there is just something unnerving about seeing the edge line come up under the vehicle where you're sitting) and she would get mad if I said anything, so my driving most of the time when we're together just kind of became habit for us, even on road trips. She hated it at first, but my use of the fact my dad did most of the driving and so that was what I was used to from growing up helped her get past the natural inclination to think it was all a male chauvinist thing...
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It seems to me the only thing you've learned is that Caesar is a "salad dressing dude."
If we're on vacation, MrCoco wants to drive so I can be responsible for "bad directions" if we get lost. I have a better sense of direction when it comes to being somewhere for the first time and knowing which way to find our way back to where we're staying, for instance. I think MrCoco must just focus on other things, because he'll be like clueless sometimes. I'm thinking, "You seriously don't know how to get back?"
Then if he gets huffy for some reason, I'll just clam up and say, "Alright, dude. You find the way back," and proceed to look out my window... Then, if I'm really huffy myself, sometimes I'll do a slight *snort* as he makes a turn or something and his foot will come off the gas instinctively as he second-guesses himself. Then he'll get more huffy... Anyway, just one of the ways we razz each other.
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Men don't stop to ask for directions because we can read a map!
If only you'd read said map before getting lost and not knowing where you are, it would be more effective.
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I drove a ton when I was single. Far more than my husband ever did. But in his family, that's a 'man job' so I usually let him drive, especially on long trips. Not always the best thing, since he has a tendency to fall asleep and once totaled my car and injured me when we were engaged. Not fun. Still, I let him do it, though I do get all wary when he changes lanes without signaling because I'm afraid he is falling asleep again.
your woefully inadequate attempt to suppress my HF-given right to Free Speech! 
I owe you for allowing me my say. 
, I shall eat your children for breakfast! 
MUHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! 
No, actually, when I was learning to drive, my parents trained me to be extra alert as shotgun to help keep the driver awake, so habitually, I find it very difficult to snooze if I don't have the duty of driving, even if I am dead tired and we've pulled over to switch drivers... I get in the passenger side and I'm wide awake again.
That is gonna cause some consternation in your German tourists who, being used to driving on the Autobahn, will be flashing their blinkers furiously to tell the people in front of them to move over to the right so they can pass...
Then he'll get more huffy... Anyway, just one of the ways we razz each other. 
