I consider myself average looking. Nothing special but nothing hideous. And I would imagine that everyone thinks their significant is better looking. Either from false modesty or a true outlook on their spouse.
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I don't think it matters so much to sons or daughters when Dads do it, but I think it affects daughters when Moms do that. I would think it also affects husbands... maybe they start to believe them after a while....?
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I haven't really given it much thought. Dilbert is my most favorite person on this earth. I think he's attractive. He thinks I'm attractive. It works for us.
I consider myself average looking. Nothing special but nothing hideous. And I would imagine that everyone thinks their significant is better looking. Either from false modesty or a true outlook on their spouse.
Hey, knock it off! There is so much beautiful out there in so many different ways. Frankly, in most of the "Hollywood beauties", models, etc., I don't really think are attractive.
In all the women I dated, liked, loved, considered, whatever, in none of them could you find a common thread because beauty can be so many forms. Looks wise, I think my wife is stunningly beautiful, she thinks she is very unattractive, drives me crazy to look at her, and to listen to her put herself down.
Some women I have dated, many guys would not pay any attention to them and yet I found them to be beautiful. Be nice to yourself!
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Val, I didn't think that I was putting myself down. I felt like I was being realistic. Hmmm.
But, you bring up a good point. I've heard this quite a bit with friends. Not seeing their own beauty or attractiveness. I have a friend who has "it." Whatever "it" is that makes men do double takes, she has it. She doesn't see that at all because she doesn't fit that stupid Hollywood mold. But, she has difficulty seeing her attractiveness and it affects her relationship with her husband.
I can't tell you how many times and how many of my girl friends tell me that they have difficulty being intimate with their husbands because of their feelings about themselves. And that is truly sad because I think their husbands don't see them the same way they see themselves. And I'm not sure what can be done to help change that perspective.
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Val, I didn't think that I was putting myself down. I felt like I was being realistic. Hmmm.
But, you bring up a good point. I've heard this quite a bit with friends. Not seeing their own beauty or attractiveness. I have a friend who has "it." Whatever "it" is that makes men do double takes, she has it. She doesn't see that at all because she doesn't fit that stupid Hollywood mold. But, she has difficulty seeing her attractiveness and it affects her relationship with her husband.
I can't tell you how many times and how many of my girl friends tell me that they have difficulty being intimate with their husbands because of their feelings about themselves. And that is truly sad because I think their husbands don't see them the same way they see themselves. And I'm not sure what can be done to help change that perspective.
No reason at all to put yourself in 2nd place by being "realistic". My wife never thought she was good looking, I think she is drop dead gorgeous. Be what you want, who you are.
As to the rest of your post, you met my wife?! Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt and sold the movie rights as well. I don't get that part, totally odd IMO. If a husband sees his wife as beautiful and wants to be with her, but she is hesitant about her looks so pushes him away, even though he married her and thinks she is beautiful. What the heck, that's crazy talk!
What the wife is thinking:
Wife: "Hmmmm, I don't think I look good, I just think that because I must be, so I don't want to be intimate with the man who loves me, tells me and thinks I am beautiful, therefore, let me confuse the heck out of him, drive him nuts, hurt him because of a hang up that is in my head, and can't possibly believe my husband when he says I look wonderful because he has to say that because he is my husband, therefore he must be lying and I am so unattractive, I will just be upset and not trust what he says because he is saying I am beautiful when I could not possbily be!"
What the husband is thinking:
Husband: "Dang, my wife still looks hot after having kids and with no make up on, let's hurry and get those kids to bed, she is one hot momma!"
Reminds me of the Jeff Foxworthy line when women ask what you're thinking. It's not difficult, something naked and something cold to drink, it's not difficult.
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Love Foxworthy! Although I think he bases his humor on my family.....
I can say as a woman that there are times that I feel very unattractive...and it has nothing at all to do with how other people see me. It may be due to hormones or drinking too much Dew () or whatever, but I feel that way and nothing anyone can say or do will change my mind at that time.
So, on the one hand I understand why my friends feel this way. But, overall I'm with you...if my husband worshipped me then who am I to care what other people think (including myself)?
Perhaps the married women on the board can understand this issue more.
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Whenever I don't feel beautiful, my husband just gives me that "look" that means that he totally adores me, and then I feel better.
Sometimes I want to ask those really attractive people if they think they are attractive. Honestly, when I was in the Singles ward and looked around, all I saw were absolutely beautiful women, and I was saddened by how few dates they were asked on. The guys were all attractive too, by the way. I used to have the ugly/pretty thing ingrained in me, but somehow sometime I think it's most of the way gone and I just see people as people. Sometimes things that people do make me not want to be as close of a friend with them, and I definitely don't like being around people who think they are all that because I'll always be less than them. I like it when everyone is on the same level, and compliments are always paid...I guess I had good friends in the Single's ward.
My current ward is full of a bunch of beautiful married women, half of which are pregnant and absolutely radiant!
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Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt and sold the movie rights as well. I don't get that part, totally odd IMO. If a husband sees his wife as beautiful and wants to be with her, but she is hesitant about her looks so pushes him away, even though he married her and thinks she is beautiful.
What the heck, that's crazy talk! 
