Have any of you any ideas on object lessons you might use to teach your children not only to tolerate each others, but to teach them to help each other out? Recently I've noticed that some of the younger siblings are learning and starting to do things that used to be the exclusive domain of the older siblings. There's been a little contention as they learn to adapt and help each other.
Also whenever we get into the car, there seems to be a big argument about who gets to sit where. It's kinda getting old. I'm curious how you'd approach this sort of thing. It's not big things, but I really want to have my children help each other and encourage and even cheer for each other when they do things, and not be so concerned that just because one child receives praise that it says anything about them, or that they feel need to show up the other sibling...
Yea, I know... pipedream... it's human nature... blah blah, but i believe there are stories and object lessons children can learn from.
I was thinking of the story that Boyd k. Packer used in a talk ages ago about a crab fisherman who kept his crabs in a bucket, and didn't need a lid, because they'd keep each other in the bucket, by pulling each other down... That story I've remembered since i was a kid... so are there any stories like that that you remember or like sharing?
--Ray
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I don't have a story, but don't you live in Renton, WA or somewhere there-abouts?
For FHE head on over to Salgreener State Park (if you don't know where that is, it's a little south of Des Moines--look it up). Bring a bucket and go at low tide. There are tons of those little crabs (quarter sized or a little bigger) under the rocks. Catch a bunch of them, put them in the bucket, and see if it's true. Make sure the bucket is shallow enough that they could climb out if they weren't impeded.
And be sure to return and report here. We want to know from first hand experience if the crabs really keep each other down.
That is REALLY bizaar. It shows up correctly on my screen when I type it. It shows up correctly when I preview it. But when I post it it is changed. I don't have a filter on this laptop that would change what I type. Is there some kind of filter on Activeboard? And even if there is, why would it substitute "g-r-e-e-n" for part of s-a-l-t-w-a-t-e-r?
(Sorry to derail your thread, rayb)
Edit to add: Ok, now I get it. I guess I need to brush up on my obscure profanity.
For the seats in the car we used to number the seats and each trip in the car the kids had to draw a number to see where they would be sitting. They learned pretty quickly to share the "good" seats (window seat or by a door).
I generally don't like profanity filters, but for a while it seemed necessary to turn Activeboard's filter on for our forum. I'm wondering whether to turn it off, because we really haven't had a problem, and it messes with ordinary words like saltwater. I used random words as replacement words in an attempt to be funny (and not to make it obvious what word was being replaced). So anyway, I've tweaked the filter now and you should have no problem writing the word saltwater. ETA apparently my tweak didn't work the first time. Here's hoping for the second time...
-- Edited by arbilad at 18:29, 2007-05-07
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That makes sense, Arbilad. The combination of not knowing there was a profanity filter and not really being familiar with that particular word caught me off guard. I have no problem with there being a filter. In fact, now I think it was pretty funny.
You are welcome for the vocabulary lesson, rayb. Anything I can to do contribute to the forum...
By the way, I grew up in a house on the west hill of the Kent valley. I always thought Maple Valley was a nice place. Has it gotten too crowded, or is it still fairly rural?
Dilbie: it's getting crowded. There are some very nice places still, but we feel the effects of the masses... Then again, the whole area feels those effects... :) (I work in Kent! :)
--Ray
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My mom would rotate weeks of who got to be "first" aka sit shotgun. Along with the rotation of seats in the car, was a rotation of chores, so each week we'd have a different seat, and a different chore.
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