Last year, our family befriended a new family in the ward. We did the swap dinner things, kids played together, wifeys talk on the phone and visit, etc.
I feel bad to admit it, but the more I got to know these people, the less comfortable I felt around them. There was no chemistry between my husband and the other guy. They ascribe to a worldview that we're not crazy about. They would borrow tools and return them worn out/blades dull, etc.
It just became a relationship where we were giving more than we were getting out of it. In addition, conversations always seemed to turn in uncomfortable directions.
I feel it is my failing. And I feel bad about easing back on the friendship.
I've had this happen to me... in fact it happens often. I think it is because people have seperate lives and they aren't static beings. We drift apart, unless we have some reason to work together.
Don't know what to do about it.
--Ray
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I'm not slow; I'm special. (Don't take it personally, everyone finds me offensive. Yet somehow I manage to live with myself.)
nah. it's more like, we really hit it off... but then over time, the other person gets involved in their life, and well... it's just not the way it was... I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that it's fun to discover new things, but not necessarily as fun maintaining old things. And the older i get the more I resemble and old thing...
--Ray
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I'm not slow; I'm special. (Don't take it personally, everyone finds me offensive. Yet somehow I manage to live with myself.)
At least you could have been honest with me and my family instead of posting it on here for everyone to see. You don't like us? You don't think your husband and I have chemistry. You don't like my college fraternity stories like the time Otter, Flounder, Bluto and the guys had that huge toga party. And those tools were dull when we borrowed them. And if I have to hear one more story about how you and your husband met at BYU, your pioneer ancestors, your uncle the general authority, where you went on your missions, how I'm abusing my kids by not homeschooling, or how having a pepsi is tantamount to smoking crack and I think I'll puke. Dont' even get me started on those home videos. I rue the day that some nerd in Japan invented that horrid device. Oh, and one more thing. Your kids who you think are little angels are more like little devils. I have never seen such bratty, spoiled kids in my life.
We should be kind to others but that doesn't mean that we have to be best buds with everyone. There are lots of people in the ward that I don't mind spending time with and others I would rather not. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm sure you are on some people's "rather not" list. Does that bother you more? Some people click and some don't. That's life. Perhaps you feel bad because you have invested something in this relationship with a family. Kind of like buyer's remorse. Maybe they feel the same way. Unless they are clueless they probably feel uncomfortable too. Just allow the currents of life to carry you in different directions. It's normal. They probably have other friends and so do you. This is why I don't have friends!
Dont' even get me started on those home videos. I rue the day that some nerd in Japan invented that horrid device. Oh, and one more thing. Your kids who you think are little angels are more like little devils. I have never seen such bratty, spoiled kids in my life.
